Real Street Fights: 3 Tips For PREVENTING A Fight!

Real Street Fights: Preventing A Street Attack

Jeff Anderson

I'm not a lawyer.

I do know, though, that one of the ways to survive a self-defense altercation during the legal aftermath is being able to show that you tried to prevent it.

This means de-escalating the process of the “street interview.”

It means disrupting that process where a thug sizes you up and things escalate until they get physical.

Staying out of jail is part of the survival equation.

To do that, you've got to know how to prevent a fight if you can.

I spoke with my friend Matt Numrich about this, and here is a summary of what he told me.

3 Tips For PREVENTING A Fight!

Real Street Fights: Preventing A Street Attack
Real Street Fights: Preventing A Street Attack
Matt Numrich

Most of us know about verbal de-escalation.

Backing somebody down verbally, refusing to throw a punch, and assuming a passive stance all help not to escalation a situation into something physical.

We're not replying with something harsh.

We're being almost apologetic, and we're going as far as we can to stay on the legal side of defending ourselves.

There are some things you need to remember when it comes to preventing a fight, however, beyond verbal de-escalation.

1. Can You Just Leave?

Whether you go ahead and get physical or not, I always judge by this thing:

Could I leave safely from the situation without it getting physical?

For instance, if I’m going ahead and I’m walking down the street and I have two guys, one get in front of me, one get behind me, and they ask for my wallet, could I leave that situation safely?

Could I just literally, whether it be walk away or run away from the situation safely?

Probably not.

If the people want to go ahead and mug me they’re going to go ahead and mug me, or they wouldn’t have asked for my wallet in the first place.

On the other hand, once again, use the old parking lot kind of situation.

If I’m walking by somewhere, and let’s say someone thinks that I put a ding in their car or something like that, could I leave that situation without it getting physical?

  • Could I escape the situation without getting physical?
  • Could I leave the situation safely just by walking, either that or running away?

In my mind, that’s going to give you that answer to whether that preemptive strike is that the right thing to do.

2. Is Your Ego Pushing You Into A Fight?

I’m not going to lie to you.

Every single situation is a little bit different.

I think so many times our ego gets in the way.

Because our ego gets bruised, that’s what we want to defend.

There’s a big difference between defending your ego, as opposed to offending your physical life, or physical harm being done to you, or someone you love.

Learning to conquer your own pride, to back down even when you think someone is trying to goad you, can be the biggest battle some people face.

But refusing to let people push you into a fight you don't have to have is a big part of preventing a lot of altercations.

3. Spot Pre-Fight Indicators

Even if we decide to walk away from a situation, if someone comes up in an aggressive standpoint I’m never, ever going to turn my back on that person until I feel that I’m at a safe distance.

When you become aware of a potential threat, you should be looking for pre-fight indicators the entire time.

Those indicators will warn you that, despite what you've done to de-escalate, that the fight is on.

Obviously, we don’t have time to go through all of them.

The number one indicator, though, is that if you are backing away and the person is closing the gap, that is a huge indicator they mean to attack you.

If you’ve gone ahead and you’ve taken your two, three, four steps back and all of a sudden the person starts inching their way on in, that’s a huge red flag.

Could they be coming on in to try to intimidate you and they have no means whatsoever, no desire whatsoever, to physically attack you?

It could happen.

The fact is, though, that if someone is decreasing the distance more and more, chances are good they mean to attack.

Another thing to watch for is rate of talk.

If you're trying to de-escalate verbally and they keep ramping up, talking louder and more quickly, that's a red flag.

Finally, watch their facial expressions and their skin tone.

The redder they get, the darker they get, the more you should be concerned that your de-escalation is not working.

Keep all these factors in mind.

If you can't prevent a fight, if you can tell the fight is on top of you, you have to be prepared to fight back.

That's why we train… and it's why we train to prevent fights whenever we can in the first place.

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Real Street Fights: “Must Know” Warning Signs!

Jeff Anderson
Jeff Anderson, Editor

You may have heard somewhere…

Eighty percent of the time, the first person to get the first punch is the one who will win the fight.

The exact percentage doesn't matter, and might as well be made up.

You can't just go around hitting people for no reason, though.

You can only take that shot if you're facing a real threat.

But how do you know when that is?

This is a topic we've actually covered before on the blog, but I never get tired of talking with our experts about it.

Recently, I spoke with Matt Numrich about how to know when someone is going to attack you, and here's a run-down of what he had to say to me.

3 “Must Know” Warning Signs That Someone Is Going To Attack You In A Real Street Fight!

Real Street Fights: “Must Know” Attack Warning Signs
Matt Numrich

Reasonable people try to defuse a fight, to talk their way out of it before it happens.

There will be times when, even though you are apologetic and trying to avoid things getting physical, the guy you're facing intends to take things to the next level.

Very few people are aware of the indicators that violence is coming.

There are three warning signs though, that you should always be looking for.

These warnings can tell you that a guy is about to hit you… and that you'd better do something about it!

Street Fight Warning #1: Proximity

Your first indicator is simply proximity.

That means, how close is the guy, and is he getting closer?

One of the reasons instructors teach people to get into the “interview stance,” to “blade” themselves to point one of their hips at the other guy, is that this allows you to slide away backwards until you are at a safe distance.

The number one indicator that the situation is going to escalate is if you are backing away and the person is closing the gap.

If you’ve gone ahead and taken your two, three, four steps back and the person starts inching their way on in, that’s a huge indicator right there.

Obviously, could they be coming in to try to intimidate you only, and have no desire whatsoever to physically attack you?

Without a doubt that could happen.

But, if someone decreases distance more and more as you try to maintain distance, then it's more than likely they are going to lash out physically.

If you can increase distance from them, great.

You've increased your reaction time.

If he keeps inching closer to you, though, that's a huge red flag you need to watch for.

Street Fight Warning #2: Rate Of Conversation

The second thing to look for is the rate of the conversation.

Is he talking faster?

Is he responding more quickly?

If the rate of conversation increases, be mindful of that.

If a person wants to attack you physically, and you’re kind of barking back and forth to each other rapidly, that is not a good sign.

Even if you’re being apologetic, that person might still be firing remarks back at you very rapidly, which means they may attack.

Listen very carefully for this clue that a fight is about to happen.

Street Fight Warning #3: Facial Expressions And Skin Tone

The third thing to look for is facial expressions.

It's not just the face they make, though.

It's also their skin tone, which can change.

If someone is going to attack you, they will probably get redder in the face.

The redder and darker their skin tone, the more you should be on your guard.

These three physical indicators I've just explained to you are very important.

They can help you survive when it comes to actually having to defend yourself.

Don't forget to watch for them… and if you see them, know that you'd had better TAKE ACTION.

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Real Street Fights: How To Combat FEAR!

Jeff Anderson

Most of us don't go around fighting people.

It's natural, therefore, to feel fear when you suddenly find yourself face-to-face with an aggressive attacker…

…Especially someone your brain tells you is a real threat because he's larger, stronger, or more experienced, right?

Want to know how to face fear head-on… and even use it to your advantage?

I spoke with self-defense trainer Matt Numrich about this, and here's a quick run-down of what he told me about dealing with fear in a fight.

How To Make Fear Your B*tch In A Real Street Fight!

Real Street Fights: Conquering Fear
Matt Numrich

When it comes to defending yourself in a real street fight, fear is a tricky thing…

It can be your worst enemy and cause you to doubt yourself and your ability to survive the attack – effectively causing you to hesitate… and we all know that hesitation kills.

But fear can also be your best friendIF you know how to harness its power and use it to your advantage.

Not only that, but it's super easy to do, and here are 3 quick tips to make YOU the master of your body's natural response when you're facing an attacker with no way out…

1. Meet Fear Head-On… At Its Source!

In a confrontation, people go back and forth between two extreme emotions…

They're either feeling fear or they're feeling really, really angry.

And in fact, it's not unusual to go back and forth between these two emotions when you're looking at the potential of having to defend yourself.

But both fear AND anger can get you in trouble:

If you let anger get the best of you, you're going to do some pretty stupid things.

You're not going to have control of yourself… you're not going to make the right ethical calls… you may take things way, way too far – potentially even ending up killing someone accidentally because you were out of control

But on the other end of the continuum is fear.

Fear causes hesitation – and hesitation can get you killed.

The good news is that fear is nothing more than an emotion when you really get down to it.

And emotions are something you can control.

The key is to analyze your own fears on the deepest level you can so you can find your own “fear triggers”.

That's going to be different for different people – some may have experienced a traumatic experience in the past… others may be programmed by years of negative self-talk… or bullying.

Either way, when you strip it all away, it all comes down to one thing…


Ultimately I think that's why most people want to learn self-defense techniques – and learning how to fight does have that power, but ONLY if you follow these next 2 steps…

2. The “Missing Link” Most People Don't Address When Facing Fear In A Real Street Fight…

Remember the first time you got in a car to learn how to drive?

You almost certainly had a certain level of an anxiety or fear when you first got behind the wheel, right?

Whether that was in drivers ed class or your parents maybe took you out for the first time, your heart was probably racing a mile a minute and you were scared to death about scratching the paint on dad's old 1974 Dodge Dart.

Now let's jump ahead a few years…

Now when you get in your car, you can do so without your heart jumping up into your throat, right?

Why is that?

Why do you feel so differently now, as opposed to that first time that you did it?

It’s because you've had all this practice now.

And that's the “missing link” that few people who are facing their fears ever realize about eliminating its negative effects: it takes PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE!

I know, sounds simple… and it is… but there's actually one more important piece to the puzzle…

3. “Practice Makes Perfect”? No… “PERFECT Practice Makes Perfect”!

Practice by itself isn't enough to overcome your fear in a real street fight.

You can perform millions of punches and thousands of kicks and blocks, but these won't help you overcome fear if:

  1. Your techniques aren't effective in a real street fight (without rules!); and
  2. You don't practice your techniques under realistic conditions that simulate a real attack

You see, it's not about the fact that you're practicing; it's about HOW you're practicing.

Bottom line is you have to use scenario-based training – putting yourself through realistic simulations of what you'll face on the street.

Once you've done that many times, once you know what to expect, fear won't cripple you.

In fact, the natural adrenaline rush you'll get from that initial “fear” your body senses can be USED to increase your strength and power when you finally realize it's “go time” and make your move.

This type of training isn't that hard to do – and can even be fun.

That's why I took a good hard look not just at the techniques I've trained my students in… but HOW we train them.

This was the whole foundation of our Fearless Street-Fighting video series and I've seen it create amazing results in those who have trained with it.

But no matter what you're training in, stop and think about whether the tactics you're learning – and the way you're training with them – are doing enough to help you control fear in a real street fight… and use it to your advantage!

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MCS 124: Bruce Lee Street Fighting Techniques With Matt Numrich

Bruce Lee Street Fighting Techniques

Bruce Lee Street Fighting Techniques

As much as we talk sh*t about “martial arts” as a realistic approach to protecting yourself in a real street fight – the truth is there ARE many (many!) practical strategies that can help you survive.

Take Bruce Lee's fighting system, Jeet Kune Do for example…

Sure, Lee made those JKD moves look really bad-ass in his movies.

But at only 5'7″ and 141 lbs, Bruce Lee was a “little guy” who knew how to adapt techniques from several different fighting systems into something that didn't just look great on film…

…but would also allow you to crush any attacker in seconds in a real fight!

This week, JKD expert instructor, Matt Numrich, gives us an insider's peek into exactly what moves will help you defeat even a bigger, stronger attacker… and how to add them to your own hand-to-hand arsenal TODAY!

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Here's what you'll discover in this week's episode…

  • Why Bruce Lee's Jeet Kune Do fighting system has set itself apart from other martial arts as a reliable survival tool on today's violent streets!
  • How to systematically manipulate your attacker to remove BOTH his “offense” and his “defense”… all in one simple move!
  • The legend of Bruce Lee's “1-inch punch”… and what it means to YOUR close-quarters striking abilities!
  • What to do when your attacker locks you up by grabbing onto you to slam you to the pavement!
  • The best way to train with Bruce Lee's fighting method… EVEN if you don't have access to a local expert to guide you every step of the way!

Whether you're a complete beginner with absolutely zero fighting experience… or a martial arts “master”… the strategies we discuss in this week's episode will give you the cutting-edge advantage if you're ever attacked on the street!

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 What Other “Martial Arts” Techniques Do You Think Still Work As Street-Fighting Techniques?

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