Self Defense For Women: 3 Realities Of The “Armed Woman” Lifestyle

Jeff Anderson

Every one of us has women in our lives — people we want to keep safe.

Or, if you're reading this, maybe you ARE a woman who is thinking of carrying, or already carrying, for self-defense.

The thing is, it can be hard for women to get quality instruction.

A lot of male instructors and gun store yahoos talk down to women.

The fact is, carrying a gun all day, every day is not just a choice.

Concealed carry for the armed woman is a lifestyle.

What does concealed carry mean for women?

Is it different for a man?

Do you just need to put something in your purse?

Well, as it happens, there have been some high-profile incidents involving “purse carry.”

I talked to firearms expert Susan Carrichner-Rexrode about this recently, and here are three tips she gave me.

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Getting quality firearms information can be very intimidating for both men and women, especially if they don’t know much about guns.

There is this common stereotype of the chest-thumping know-it-all you’ll meet behind the gun counter.

Most of us who have shopped for guns have met people like that.

They intimidate men, but they’re often even more intimidating for women, because there’s so much testosterone in that one location.

And, while I hate to admit it, a lot of male gun owners, gun instructors, and “gun store guys” tend to speak down to women or condescend to them.

Here, though, are three very real pieces of information every armed woman needs to know… and every man needs to impart to his armed lady.

1. “Purse Carry” Could Get You Killed

A woman put her purse down and the gun inside it went off, in one high profile story.

Most likely, something in her purse became wedged inside the trigger guard.

Guns don’t just go off, after all.

A revolver probably wouldn’t have done it, because they have heavy trigger pulls.

But a small automatic, such as a woman might carry in her purse, could easily go off if something got caught and wedged against the trigger.

How you carry is as much about safety as it is about concealment.

You can’t just put a gun in a purse that isn’t designed for carrying a firearm.

But even purses with inserts designed for that purpose can be problematic.

That brings me to…

2. SECURE Your Gun

Your gun must be secure.

Typically for that gun to be secure it has to be in a holster.

For it to be in a holster inside of a purse, you basically have to pull that gun out of the holster in order to get your finger on the trigger.

So tell me how you’re going to be able to shoot through that purse really effectively?

The answer is, you most likely won’t.

So purse carry… let’s put that out of our minds right at the outset.

There was another horrible incident not that long before this writing.

A woman had her gun in her purse and her toddler got hold of it while they were in the grocery store.

The child accidentally shot his own mother and killed her.

Off-body carry in a purse can be very dangerous for that reason.

You have to be able to put your hand on that gun to defend yourself.

You can be separated from your purse.

You could even have your purse stolen.

Now, if you have no other option, keeping your gun nearby is better than not having one.

But if you can be separated from it easily, it isn’t much better than not having a gun at all.

So that brings us to putting a holster on the body.

3. Where To Carry

Women’s bodies are shaped differently than men’s bodies.

Large or small, women have curves.

So a woman has to find something that works for her.

For a lot of smaller women, even a paddle holster will cut into the waist because of the curve of a woman’s hips.

Some manufacturers are starting to catch on and make changes to their designs.

But your choices also make a difference.

Cross drawing across your body in an appendix carry can be a problem, for example.

Even if it’s comfortable, there are a lot of things that can go wrong.

Not to mention the time that it takes for you to get that gun out of the holster and just point it towards the target.

Small-of-the-back carry is arguably even worse.

If you’re a woman, more than likely you’re going to be thrown down on the ground, so you’re going to fall on your gun.

That’s going to hurt and could injure you badly.

If you’re attacked from behind, your attacker could take that gun away from you, maybe even before you know what’s happening.

Your gun has to be easily accessible and you have to be able to get to it quickly.

Women have a harder time than men concealing a firearm because of the nature and styles of their clothing.

They must therefore devote more time and effort to concealment options because they can’t just throw on a dress and solve the problem.

(I mean, yes, you could, but you would look out of place.)

And drawing attention to yourself is not what you’re trying to accomplish.

Plus, women want to be armed and still go about their days looking like women.

They don’t want to be women wearing guy’s clothing.

They want to be both feminine and functional.

This requires some serious devotion to training, method of carry, and accessories related to it.

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The Do-Or-Die TRUTH About Women’s Firearms Training Programs

Jeff Anderson
Editor, MCS Mag

Let's face it…

Women are considered an “easier target” for the predators that walk our streets and creep around our local business's parking lots.

That's probably why more and more women are choosing to increase their odds of being able to fight back by getting a personal defense firearm.

But like any weapon… it's only as powerful as the one who wields it, right?

And when it comes to finding the right “kind” of firearms training for women, it can be pretty intimidating to join the “good ‘ol boy's club” down at the range.

To find a more productive approach to making women more confident with their guns, we talked to women's firearms trainer and expert Susan Carrichner-Rexrode who had something to say about…

The Do-Or-Die TRUTH About Women's
Firearms Training Programs For Self-Protection…


Women have some tough decisions to make when choosing to protect themselves from attackers in the real world.

Sure, we get it that guys are bigger and stronger than we are (typically) and will likely overpower us if it's a muscle vs. muscle scenario.

For this reason, a firearm can even the odds and give women a fighting chance at surviving a physical assault.

But I've often found that women are hesitant to choose a firearm for self defense because they think they “can't use a gun” to defend themselves.

But almost just as worse is the scenario where a woman chooses a firearm… goes down to the range… and feels like they're “ready” for a real attack because they learned how to punch a nice, neat hole in a piece in a paper target.

But here's the problem…

Paper “Range Targets” Don't Fight Back!

Hitting a small target is a fine thing and range training can help you become more familiar with your firearm's mechanics.

But if that's the extent of your training, it can give you a false sense of security for what you're really going to face if you're really attacked by a violent criminal.

It's not going to be like it was down at the relaxed environment of your local gun range.

You must recognize the fact that the situation isn’t going to be where you can stand up, get in your stance, take a shot, look and see how you hit, breathe, reevaluate and start over.

You’re likely going to have a very hard time even getting to your firearm.

(By the way… don't feel bad – guys can be just as clueless about this ‘tactical fact'.)

Here's What To Expect In A Real Attack…

In the type of attack that's going to require you to possibly shoot your weapon in self-defense, you must realize that your very life is on the line.

As a woman, your attacker, more than likely, will be bigger than you, and will have something in their mind that they WANT.

That could be your money, it could be your body, or it could your life.

Your heart is going to be jumping through your chest… your adrenaline will go through the roof… and your dexterity with fine-motor skills is going to drastically take a nose-dive.

This will make it significantly harder for you to do things that otherwise would feel comfortable to you – like drawing your weapon… getting a sight picture… pulling the trigger… even getting to your keys to open your car door to escape.

In fact, I've seen people considered completely “comfortable” with firearms who, when they have to qualify for a test on the firing line, start making all kinds of rookie mistakes.

And that's just trying to take a test… let alone having to DEFEND THEIR LIVES!

So what CAN you do to make sure your skills are there when it's do-or-die time?

Women – Here's How To Prepare For A Real Attack…

1. Master Your “Will To Survive”

The first obstacle women must overcome is that little voice that may tell them they're “powerless” against an attacker – even if they're a much larger, stronger man.

Your life IS worth saving… and with proper training, you're just as deadly as any man out there.

But you must believe it first – and then…

2. Be Ready To “Flip The Switch”

Choosing to carry and train with a firearm doesn't mean you have to become “G.I. Jane”.

Attacks against women are often an “ambush” when you least expect it.

You'll be going about your daily life: shopping for groceries… going in and out of the workplace… lounging around your home – and when you least expect it, you could be attacked.

Increasing your sense of awareness to what's going on around you will help.

But when you're ambushed, you must be able to quickly “flip the switch” and pull out that ferocious resolve to survive in order to fight off your attacker and get to your gun.

And that takes special training to back it up…

3. Train For “Real Attacks” With Your Firearm

Range training is great for learning the basics and becoming intimately familiar with your firearm so its use becomes second nature.

But as you now know, your skills won't be as dependable under the duress of a real attack.

For this, you're going to have to seek out more realistic training courses that will help simulate – in a safe environment – what you can expect to face in a do-or-die attack by a violent predator.

I'm talking about the type of force-on-force simulated training that will make you “feel” like its the real thing.

Sure, it takes guts to take that first step – but we're talking about your life, right?

After training more than 18,000 women in realistic firearms training, I can tell you with full confidence that you CAN do it – and you MUST do it – if your true goal is to survive at all costs.

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MCS Podcast 65: The Armed Woman With Susan Carrichner Rexrode

The Armed Woman

The Armed Woman

From stalkers, rapists, home-invaders, and even scorned ex-husbands and boyfriends, women are prime targets for violent crime.

Maybe that's why women are the fastest growing segment of our responsibly-armed community, eh?

While women are most-often disadvantaged by size, strength, and sheer power in a physical attack, a firearm can be “the great equalizer” that can keep them safe.

But only if they're well-trained – and that's where this week's guest, Susan Carrichner Rexrode comes in…

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Here's what you'll find in this week's episode…

  • Destroying the “women are too weak” obstacle… and real tips to boost your confidence through the roof that you can defend yourself in a real fight!
  • How to choose the best firearm for your personal protection!
  • Ignore the gun-store gorillas! Here's how to walk up to any counter to buy a firearm without feeling intimidated by know-it-all “gun gurus”.
  • Realistic “training tips” to build confidence and tactical skills that will save your life in a violent attack!
  • Key strategies for keeping a 360 degree “awareness radar” to see an attack well in advance… and take quick, decisive action!

Susan didn't hold anything back and you'll be doing a LOT of note-taking in this one!

Very empowering advice for women (AND a few good men!)

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