A bouncer’s guide to STRIKING FIRST. . .

“Violence” was Geoff Thompson’s profession…

As a legendary “doorman” (aka. “bouncer”) at some of Britain’s most violent bars — the kind where they’re sweeping up the eyeballs at closing time — every night was a parade of drunken, testosterone-jacked idiots looking for a fight.

Geoff’s #1 key to survival?

His ability to “read” an attack before it even started. . . and STRIKE FIRST!

I know that may sound like a no-no in the eyes of the law. . . but the fact is, whoever “owns the offense” in a real fight is nearly guaranteed to be the victor.

And in a real attack, “victory” literally means “living”!

Same goes for you. . .

Your ability to read a potential attacker’s actions BEFORE they get knuckles to your face (or a knife between your ribs) — and being able to STRIKE FIRST — could be the only thing between going home in one piece. . . or leaving in a body bag!

Here Are 4 “First Strike” Bouncer Tricks To Defeat A Violent Attack

4 "First Strike" Bouncer Tricks To Defeat A Violent Attack
4 Signs That STRANGER Is About To Attack

Predators rely on 4 sneaky tricks that Geoff calls the “4 D’s”.

He describes the “4 D’s”, the sneaky tricks street criminals use to get close enough and sucker punch you, as dialogue, deception, distraction, and destruction.

Dialogue is intended to get you talking. If you’re focused on what you’re going to say, you’re not focused on looking for attacks.

Deception is an attempt to fool you about the nature of the threat, like trying to appear harmless, acting polite to seem like a non-threat, or otherwise blending in.

Distraction is any thing intended to put your attention somewhere OTHER than his attack, like asking for a light and then hitting you while you’re distracted with your lighter..

Destruction is the thug’s endgame, the point at which his dialogue, deception, or distraction has made an opening so he can hit you, stab you, mug you, etc.

What we can learn from real fights, comparing these “4 D’s” to real-life footage of attacks, muggings, and street fights, are three HUGE lessons:

1. Trust Your Gut

I’ve had these types of street “interviews” happen to me.

Most of the time, they’re nothing more than panhandling — nothing violent.

I remember feeling really stupid after the fact for letting that person get as close to me as I did, though.

Even when I saw them closing the distance with me, I wussed out because I didn’t want to come off as being an a-hole to a complete stranger.

I’ve learned from my mistakes since then.

You can be assertive and defend your boundaries without being a total douchebag.

In a stern voice, say,

“Stop right there, please. Can I help you?”

If they stop and respond, great.

If they don’t, that’s a sign they’re trying to get closer to you than you want. . . and you need to be prepared to take it to the next steps.

2. Use Their Own Tricks Against Them

The thing about the “4 D’s” is that they work both ways.

You can use dialogue, deception, and distraction to take the attacker OFF HIS GAME to. . .

Give you time to react. . .

. . . Make an opening so you can escape, or. . .

. . .Create the opportunity to bring the fight to him.

You could dialogue with the attacker by asking him something that gets his brain working:

“Hey, man, did you see a little brown dog anywhere around here, about so high? No? Thanks, I’ve got to find him.”

You could try to deceive and even warn off the attacker by announcing:

“Whoa, man, don’t get any closer. My doctor says I have the swine flu and I don’t want to give it to you.”

You could even distract him, even momentarily, by pointing and saying (loudly),

“Hey, what are you kids doing over there?”

If you can’t escape, and if nothing you do convinces him to stop closing distance with you, then you’ll have to proceed to your own version of destruction — which means you’ll have to. . .

3. Be Prepared To Strike FIRST

Striking first isn’t illegal if you’re in real danger.

You’re not obligated to let some giant scumbag knock your block off before you react to the very OBVIOUS threat he poses.

You don’t have to be a martial arts master to do it, either.

Just as Geoff Thompson and other bouncers discovered, most people don’t know when they’re in a fight. . . even when fists start swinging.

In fact, watch this video of a face-to-face confrontation.

Sadly, the victim didn’t realize he was in a fight until it was too late.

If you watch the video, though, you’ll see the danger signs… and the results were disastrous.

Warning: the video is very graphic.

The lessons you can learn from it, though, could save your bacon when it matters.

I should know — because I’ve used it myself more than once, and it worked every time.

 

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The 1 (And ONLY) Good Way To Answer A BULLY. . .

Have you ever been face-to-face with a “bully”?

Most of us have.

And I’m not just talking about the mutant 5th grader and his group of “future degenerates of America” laughing over top of you as you lay there in the dirt, wiping the blood from your nose.

Bullies come in all shapes, types, and sizes..

The obnoxious boss… the controlling spouse… the abusive parent…

And then there’s the truly “dangerous” kind – the bully who never grew up and, even as an adult, gets his kicks by creating a public scene to humiliate you… to make you cower… to look “tough” in front of his friends and anyone else watching.

It could be over the parking space he swears you stole out from under him… or the accidental *bump* at the bar or sporting event… or even the “Were you just checking out my wife?!” trigger.

If you ever find yourself eyeball-to-chest with a bully who’s twice your size, your first response is going to make or break your ability to avoid a potential assault.

That’s why I want to show you. . .

The 3 Ways To Deal With A “Bully” (But Only 1 Actually WORKS!)…

Ways To Respond To A Bully (Only One Works)
3 Ways To Respond To A Violent Bully

Ok, before I go into the 3 ways to respond to a bully, here’s what you must understand about them:

They’re psychologically “weak”.

It’s actually their own insecurity that makes them want to abuse other people so they can feel better about themselves.

This helps them to feel in control.

But while most bullies ARE cowards deep down, that doesn’t mean they aren’t VERY dangerous… and there’s ALWAYS the possibility of physical violence!

So, when you’re confronted by a potentially VIOLENT bully, you basically have 3 options for how you respond:

1. Anger And Aggression

It’s only natural to get angry when someone tries to push you around, right?

You want to get right back in their face… insult them back… make them feel the way they made YOU feel.

You want “payback”.

While that thought may feel empowering, the reality is that insulting a bully or making him “lose face” in front of his friends just makes him feel pressured to take his attack to the next level.

In other words, it could push things into a physical confrontation.

FAIL!

2. Fear And Passivity

This next response is something I blame on our schools and today’s society…

Too much of the “anti-bullying” literature out there, including what they teach our kids in schools, is basically just rolling over for bullies.

The idea is that, if you give in to the bully and don’t stand up for yourself, you at least won’t be guilty of making things worse.

That’s why school “zero tolerance” programs are such a bad idea.

They punish BOTH the kid who started a fight AND the kid who got picked on.

That attitude carries over into adult life too…

But showing fear or passivity to a bully is basically like blood in the water to a shark…

It gets the bully “high” on how much fun it is to push you around, because most bullies are cowards who like helpless victims.

Fear and passivity just makes everything worse for you. . . and because bullies love a guaranteed “win,” it also increases the chance they’ll make things physical because they know there’s no risk to them!

If you look like “lunch”… you WILL get eaten!

(I have a video I’ll show you in a few seconds that demonstrates PERFECTLY why this is a dangerously bad idea!)

3. Confidence And Assertiveness

The only response to a bully that actually WORKS is assertiveness.

This is, in a way, a reflection of your own self-image.

If you have a strong self-image, if you are very confident, then you’ll be able to stand up for yourself without feeling the need to be insulting to your aggressor.

You’ll be able to look him in the eye, show now fear, and make it clear that, while you’re not looking to challenge him, you’re also not his “bitch.”

The next time some thug twice your size snarls, “What the f**k are you looking at?!” you won’t try to make a joke…

You won’t hit back with an insult…

You won’t escalate the situation…

You’ll simply be calm, assertive, and in control – defusing the situation so that you don’t HAVE to fight.

But here’s the critical key to making this work…

You can’t “project” confidence if you’re not 100% sure that – if you had to – you could handle a much larger attacker if he decides to attack anyway.

You can’t fake it.

If he decides he’s not going to back down like most cowardly bullies…

…you MUST be able to take him down!

Unfortunately, most people don’t possess the self-defense skills that TRULY work against even someone who is bigger and stronger than you (as most bullies are).

When they’re eyeball-to-chest with a bully twice their size and strength, you can literally SEE their self-confidence getting eaten away.

For example, watch the guy in this video as he’s bullied by a bigger attacker…

I use this example in my “Defeat Larger Attackers” DVD because it’s one of the best examples I’ve ever seen for the WRONG way to deal with a bully…

… and this guy PAYS for it!

Dearly!

When you watch the video, think about how to NOT be “that guy”.

  • How would YOU have de-escalated the fight?
  • What mistakes did the “victim” make BEFORE he was attacked?
  • And how would YOU have responded when you realized that there was no backing out?

It’s always best to learn from other peoples’ mistakes and this guy in the video makes a LOT of them… so watch the video and put yourself in this guy’s shoes.

I think you’ll have a whole new perspective on the RIGHT way to respond to a bully, eh?

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